This is actually very simple. The reason why people are up in arms over which bathroom you use is because they’re worried that a sexual predator with a penis (typically a heterosexual male at birth and/or now, in this case) could dress as a woman & enter the ladies room & rape a woman. Forget about the other women who might enter the ladies room & report the rape occurring — that’s the real fear here, so let’s assume that another woman might not be there to come to the rescue or maybe she might get raped next.
Most guys don’t care if a woman they don’t know wants to come into the men’s room & look at what they’ve got — it’s the only place they could possibly show her what they’ve got (whether she likes it or not) & not get arrested for it. So the real concern is the protection of women in the ladies room.
You couldn’t rape a woman with your penis if you didn’t have one, so getting uptight about transgender women (a woman who was born a man & no longer has a penis) or a cross-dressing woman (a woman who has no penis dressing up as a man) using the ladies room is no big deal if he/she never had a penis or doesn’t have one anymore.
We’ve also established that men have no problem with women seeing them naked, so women using the men’s room is fine with us now or anytime. We don’t care if you were born a man or woman or turned into a man or vice-versa or have both — you are welcome in the men’s room anytime, whatever you are. The men’s room is the true unisex bathroom. Go to a concert or sporting event where the bathroom capacity is inadequate & you will see ladies in the men’s room, I guarantee it.
So the solution is simple — if you have a penis, use the men’s room. If you don’t, use the ladies room. How you dress & what sex you “identify” with means nothing — if you’re in the ladies room & you’ve got “gear”, then get outta here.
Why is that so friggin’ hard to figure out?