The problem with many heterosexuals (or those who outwardly act/claim to be heterosexual) is that they are simply ignorant or at least short-sighted.  They make disparaging remarks and use “gay” as an attack word against a heterosexual as slur or curse word against them, such as “that’s so gay” or “you’re so gay”, then they apologize for saying it & that’s usually the end of it without any thought as to the thought process behind this.

Keep in mind that this argument is being made by a hopelessly-hetero, married Southern male, and I’ve never had a gay experience or even a thought about it in my entire life — not that that’s wrong, as “Seinfeld” famously said; it’s just that I’m wired “straight”.  I almost wish I was gay because I get so pissed at the “team I’m playing on” (another “Seinfeld” quote) at times — does quoting “Seinfeld” make me gay?  I think it makes me intelligent more than anything, as I’m not busy watching Larry The Cable Guy, who by the way isn’t a redneck, but close — he’s from Nebraska, just another backassward Red state.

What we have to change is not just the speech, but the mindset of these idiotic people.  For example, we have pretty well banned the “n-word” from public use throughout our society unless you’re a black comic or rapper (and they’re surely next), but we have plenty of people who use the n-word privately, and those who don’t in racial situations in many cases are thinking it, and they’re living their lives segregated from others of different races by choice.  The Civil Rights Act of 1968 broke down the legal race boundaries, but it did nothing much for social race boundaries, although I do admit things are much better now than they were 45 years ago — your local country club has at least 1 non-white member and maybe 1 woman member — great progress, eh?  What a waste of land those places are.

We have to first get these people to realize that their religion shouldn’t apply to others who don’t believe in it, and if their religion says that homosexuality is bad, it’s not a good religion at all if it excludes people who have no choice being what they are, and that being that is not a birth defect.  We also have to show them that whatever sexual preference people have should have no bearing on them as a person anymore than being left-handed, red-headed, a person of some color other than peachy white, or disabled.